My vision of Primary and Secondary

These are the things I want of a Primary and Secondary. I'm willing to bend I suppose, but this is my starting list. Since I'm starting somewhat over, at least with the whole Primary role, I think this is a good thing for me to specify even if it changes:

PRIMARY


• Happy co-habitation
  
• Sharing of home duties/financials
  
• Practicing poly (ie: not new to it, not "wanting to try it", already experienced)
  
• Partners take the time to get to know me, knowing full well my role
  
• Takes the time to get to know my partners without insecurity and hiding
  
• Self-confident, likes himself and is able to communicate clearly and caringly
  
• Responsible for his own feelings and does not try to take responsibility for mine
  
• Sexually exciting, responsive and open to new things
  
• Happy with being child-free in our relationship
  
• Emotionally supportive
  
• Whatever 'escape' they have isn't used as a reason to not be something listed above
  

SECONDARY


• Co-habitation is an option but not required
  
• Completely honest with other partners about me
  
• Partners take the time to get to know me, knowing full well my role
  
• Takes the time to get to know my partners without insecurity and hiding
  
• Travelling partner/group for holidays
  
• Emotionally supportive, accepting sometimes all I need is loving cuddles/touches
  
• Responsible for his own feelings and does not try to take responsibility for mine
  
• Sexually exciting, responsive and open to new things