Fast Seduction and MLTRs

My journey down the educational road towards Polyamory started with a general feeling of confusion, frustration and depression because I was feeling something I had been raised like many others to believe was "wrong", and "bad". Yet, I didn't feel like I was a wrong or bad person, just a person who found connection with more than one person in my life.

My first educational readings surrounding my dilemma were on a Usenet newsgroup about "Fast Seduction", whose main purpose was to help guys change from being an Average Frustrated Chump (AFC) to being, well, Pick Up Artists. The main premise of the discussions were surrounding the topic of How To Get Laid, and a secondary premise was What To Do If You Wish To Stay Sexless And Miserable.

I, as a woman with no real close male friends with whom I could ask honest, tough questions, learned a lot from the readings, and I even hopped into some of the discussions as one of the rare females who didn't hop in just to start a flame war with all the guys and their "piggish" ways. I actually hopped into conversation with an open mind and asked some tough questions and answered some other tough questions that came back as a result.

It was incredibly difficult to read and participate in that forum because a lot of the focus was on guys getting laid and being desired, and there wasn't very much focus on ethics. There were some folks who talked about MLTRs (multiple Long Term Relationships) which had an ethical and honest tinge to them, but overall the focus was to get guys to a place where they feel confident and good enough about themselves in order to attract a sexual partner, and, well, since they need practice in order to really feel confident about it all, it's actually recommended that an AFC in recovery NOT get into a long term relationship for fear of falling back into their old self-destructive habits.

At any rate, my time in that forum didn't last long - perhaps 4 months or so. I learned a lot and still go back and refer to the Fast Seduction website every once in a while, but in general, it's not aimed at me as a target market, so I've leaned towards other places more regularly for information more directly useful to me.

Sometimes I think about returning as one of the few level-headed females that contribute to the discussions, but I wonder what the benefit of it would truly be. I mean, it's nice to "know thy enemy" (ie: the Pick up artist only interested in one night or interested in finding "that one" that will end up in bed with him tonight), but it also builds mistrust of men in me.

And I don't need that. There's already enough in life that contributes to that.